Relationships: the foundation of tribe.
We are all connected, even when we feel like there is a separation.
There is no separation.
And here is the opportunity, being in this tribe, to truly get how connected we are.
I’ve experienced love, support, community at a whole new level.
What may have seemed like abrupt, devastating and painful news was in fact, divinely guided and part of a larger purpose and plan.
I trust in a way I’ve never trusted before. I love on a deeper level. I open my heart.
Well, that was at the top of the roller coaster on Sunday night. And here’s part 2, when I hit the bottom on Monday morning:
I invite you to join me as I let go of more “stuff.” I invite you to reflect on letting go of relationships, objects, thoughts, beliefs that may be blocking you from “what’s next”.
What’s possible for you now?
Love, Tanya
PS. Join us on this week’s Free Tribe Builder Call, Wed August 3 at 9am PST. I’ll be getting personal and teach you how to get the tribe behind your dream (or crisis as in my case this week).
Click here to register for the call (and if you can’t make it live, register to get the recording).
My heart is with you, Tanya!
This is a very big moment in your life. Thank you for sharing it with us. Thank you for having the courage to show up with your vulnerable one. It serves on so many levels.
I do appreciate how your pain connects you with the suffering in the world. We so often forget. Easy to do in this country. So to hold that awareness in the midst of your pain does serve… growing an even greater empathy for all of life which moves us to effective action.
And the words that rise up for me are… the personal is political. So do remember how you tend to yourself is how we tend to all who are suffering. Take the time. Take the space to Be with.
my love & support to you!!!
Beautiful line about how we tend to ourselves and others’ suffering. Love you!
Tanya, I know exactly how you are feeling right now sister! My heart is with you and you have support all the way from good ole Pennsylvania. I have been on the roller coaster for far too long with my own relationship and I know now its time to make some decisions and get off. But that is always easier said then done.
Keep your head up. You will get through this. We both will and we will be better, stronger women because of it.
Sending you hugs.
xoxo
Kimberly
Thanks for sharing Kimberly! I appeciate it
My goodness Tanya – holding up your raw emotions like this is truly inspiring. My heart breaks for the pain you feel right now but I have total faith that you will come from this wiser and stronger.
Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Tanya, there is so much wisdom and courage in what you’re sharing here. The beauty of these videos is that when you’re at the bottom of the roller coaster you can watch the top-of-the-roller-coaster video and remember, “this too shall pass.”
I love that you’re letting the feelings in and trusting the universe and the process. I can’t wait to see what want to be born in the vacuum that this loss is creating . . . something juicy I’m sure! Thanks for sharing your story and your lessons. xoxo
Mmm, yes it all will pass, the ups and the downs. Life is impermanent.
I hear you Tanya, and have SO been there! I saw a film last night, Finding Joe about the Hero’s (Heroine’s) journey a la Joseph Campbell. Sounds like you are on the next phase of yours…. I know that from the most painful experiences of my life have come the most growth. I know that sounds trite, but I do mean it from my heart. Allowing myself to fully enter and not back away from what I needed to go through made all the difference….
Thanks for sharing the film! Will check it out.
Wow Tanya, very powerful videos and I have a ton of empathy for you. I’m also so impressed with how eloquent you are in such a painful time….that is a gift!
My first wife left me when I was 30. I know what it is like to be an adult living in the room of a friends house. I also know that shortly after we split my life became extraordinary…like the universe rewarded me for my courage and heart. I never would have even thought about acting without being forced to let go of that relationship and finally focus on myself.
I wish you must comfort and peace on your journey Tanya, and I hope we can all be with you when the roller coaster comes back up to the top.
Thank you so much for your comforting words.
Scott! The same thing happened to me! I write and produce musical theatre, and started this right around the time of my divorce, and have always been behind the scenes, but now I’ve got the courage to act and sing in a One Woman Show about my experiences! I also host Women’s Empowerment Events and do coaching so my experiences have become useful to the World. Light and Love to you.
These videos are so brave! I remember the last painful breakup I had – I had been fooling myself into thinking that he and I were “perfect” and that he was “perfect” and I vowed never to do that again – but I don’t think I could teach or mentor during that time, no way! I could barely eat. I know this will be a difficult time but I have total confidence that you’ll be super glad when it’s all over. Because when it’s right, it’s very obvious, and when it’s wrong, it’s obvious too, when we take the time to see it.
It was never that I thought it was “perfect” but instead that we could work through anything. And we did work through everything. The universe just whispered that it was the end of this part of our journey together. Thanks so much for your share
I love how honest you are. You show up here every week telling the truth and being you is the greatest gift to all of us and to the world.
Wishing you light and love as you keep riding the roller coaster. Thanks for being YOU in the world. We are all grateful for that.
Sending you a massive dose of love and hugs. How brave of you to show the bottom of the roller coaster as it is all to easy to cling to the thrill of being at the top.
And yet there is always that saying what goes up must come down. It is knowing that life is there to throw the crap our way and also the wonderful. For it sounds as if you have that it vast quantities with your tribe around you. Woman that stand and support you at your most vulnerable. It is at these times that the magic of spirit can truly surface to show us ways we never knew existed. As the old is let go of. The space that is created allowing in the new. And so the roller coaster goes back up and the thrill of the ride starts over. But often the thrill can come in the learning of getting out from the bottom.
I wish you so much joy in coming to terms with all that has happened. I offer no advice other than what you already know which is to be kind to you, take your time and don’t rush the process.
Holding you in my heart, Tanya! Your honesty and courage are an inspiration. xo
Tanya,
I am loving you as always my friend. I am here if you need me for anything. I have been in Hiding/cocoon mode and wanted to reach out. Love you and know our hearts are expanding even bigger that’s why it hurts to breath! My life love, and soul partner came back into my life only to show me I clearly have more room to expand with my love challenging me to let go of him again. Lessons smessions!! poohy
We will love each other through this my friend. I’m right here <3
xoxo
” A powerful woman is aware of when she is repeating an historical experience and uses it to heal her past. A powerful woman is gentle with herself.”
Requoting you! Love it!
Beautiful, beautiful Tanya! My heart and spirit is with you. I’m giving you a big hug right now. *squeeze*
You are an inspiration to women all over the world. Thank you for your courage, vulnerability, heart, and so much more. You are amazing, Tanya!
xoxo
Alara
Dear One~ You are so beautiful and full of wisdom. What great witness consciousness you have to so quickly identify the learnings and the Divine Order of this painful life circumstance. It’s so clear you’re making room for bigger and better. It’s only a matter of time. I so appreciate your leadership in modelling how to stay in an empowered place despite hurt and vulnerability. I’m so happy to be connected with you in community. You rock! Deepest Blessings, Sister ~Jan
Didn’t see your second video until now. You ARE so held in my heart, dearest Tanya. I know this place of the head and spirit jumping ahead of the heart and body. The heartbody slows us down to the suffering that is so vital to us, as painful as it is. I keep thinking of the cloisters from the medieval period… courtyards which had shrines to the different saints, or gods. Who is the goddess of grief? Who knows the pain of losing a lover? Tis a place to go to be held, yes by others, and by nature, which your rock and be with the beauty of this place… the dark eros beauty. Take care. Be with. Don’t move too fast. xoxoxox
Big hugs Tanya. I recently went through a break up with my partner of 8 years and father of my 2 children so I do understand the roller coaster of emotions you are experiencing. It isn’t easy but ultimately good. I think we each understand that intellectually yet allowing ourselves to feel the feelings is where the healing will come. I am with you sister and we both will be all the stronger for these experiences. xoxo
Love your courage and strength Tanya. You’re a real hero! I’m stepping out in faith & finding my safety net. And when I see others doing the same, I feel even stronger. Thank you! ~ Loralee
I know that feeling. My heart is with you. I had the roller coaster for 3 years with my ex-partner and it was painful. But after I let go of everything and started everything new. When I look back, I told myself ” Mistakes I’ve made, lessons I’ve learned. Keep cal, and carry on”
Big hugs.
tanya,
my first inclination was to say, “oh, i am so sorry,” but in reality, there is a bigger plan out there for you- it just has to find it’s way into your heart.
you are so lucky to have such an amazing supportive “tribe” to connect with, and they will help you, help yourself figure out what your next move is. trust your intuition, you know more than you might feel right now..
much love and luck on your journey.
and ps- getting rid of STUFF feels soooooo great!
Sending you lots of love, Tanya. Thank you for your honesty and courage.